What’s Your Safe Word? The Best BDSM Accessories and Toys for Beginners

Bondage, discipline, submission, and masochism cover a spectrum of kinky sex moves that push beyond the norms. Maybe you’ve fantasized about being told when you’re allowed to orgasm! There are so many opportunities to turn up the heat. Tease, spank, restrain, or tantalize yourself and your partner until neither can take it anymore. You can find lots of accessories and toys where you can dip your toes in the wilder waters of your sex life.

Curious about what BDSM entails but don’t know where to start? Check out our Beginners’ Bondage collection. The act of bondage in sex is an incredibly intimate, trust-building practice that can heighten every sensation in the bedroom, so make sure both of you are comfortable. 

Give yourself an opportunity to explore every inch of your partner with body-safe toys and accessories that will bring you both to the edge. Incorporating bondage toys into playtime can offer your sex life a breath of fresh air, and you may even discover something new about yourself. Once you start your collection of BDSM accessories, you’ll soon discover that it’s your favorite way to completely surrender yourself to your partner.

1.50 Shades of Grey Restraint Kit

Imagine you have total control over when your partner orgasms –all they can do is submit. Or maybe it’s you who’s looking to be dominated and entirely under someone else’s control. Make your fantasy come true with our 50 Shades of Grey Restraint Kit. Think of all the kinky, compromising positions you can get tied up in.

Part of the 50 Shades of Grey Official Pleasure Collection, this kit features a range of pleasurable toys like a satin blindfold, padded cuffs, adjustable under-the-bed restraints, and other sensual surprises you can discreetly bring anywhere. The included bed straps are adjustable to fit multiple mattress sizes, so it’s the perfect accessory for weekends away or a night of exploration at home. This kit is a great way to test some of the best BDSM toys for dominant or submissive play.

2.Sex & Mischief Solid Red Ballgag

Take your partner over the edge without letting them utter a single peep. This solid red ballgag is one of the most erotic ways to experiment with sensory deprivation Once it’s fastened correctly in you or your partner’s mouth, the fun can begin. Get lost in total ecstasy. Let all your curiosities rise to the surface with this ballgag. It makes an ideal introductory BDSM toy for beginners. If you’re into a bit of kink and the idea of muffled moans, this is the toy for you.

Pro-tip: Always be sure to talk boundaries before playing with bdsm accessories like a ball gag. You don’t want to have to interrupt intimate, kinky moments to communicate boundaries.

3."Under The Bed" Restraint System

Rendering yourself powerless during sex with restraints is incredibly erotic and such a great place to start your first introduction to BDSM. This “Under the Bed” restraint system is a fun way to experiment with kinky positions and dominant and submissive roles. You get to be in complete control of your climax and when and how your partner gets to touch you.

Adjustable BDSM accessories like this portable system are great because they’re discreet and fit multiple mattress sizes. Plus, they’re made with body-safe materials that will keep you in a seductive mindset. The best BDSM toys are ones that make you feel truly safe enough to get in touch with your sexual fantasies. Deprivation of touch creates such a fiery desire, you’ll lose your mind once the going gets hotter.

4.Fetish Fantasy Position Master

This is the closest you’ll get to heaven with that dirty mind of yours. You get total control of your partner’s body to create erotic sex poses–spread eagled, hogtied, submissive missionary, and anything else you can dream up. This Position Master is a real treat for people interested in exploring bdsm toys for beginners. It gives vanilla sex a nasty edge for those who like a little hot sauce on their sexy times.

This Position Master is made with soft, cushioned neck harness material that still gives you a tight rein. Once you start feeling comfortable with power play, you can crank things up by incorporating other BDSM accessories, like a blindfold or ballgag. Lose track of time and all sense of control– it’s time to let your desires take over.

5.Sex & Mischief Beginner's Handcuffs

Tease them a little while you please them a lot. With these comfy Beginner’s Handcuffs, you can really experiment with bondage in the bedroom. Dominate and be dominated–you get total control of how and when your partner reaches their orgasm. The handcuffs are also great to pair with some of the other best BDSM toys from our list.

Adding sensory play can really get your partner to the next level. We also love that these beginner cuffs are easy to put on and take off, so you can test the waters before you dive in. These handcuffs are the perfect way to ease into BDSM toys, especially if you’re still on the fence about chains and whips. Every couple or BDSM-curious individual should have a pair of cuffs.

It’s Getting Hot in Here

Bringing restraints to the bedroom is a sexy way to ease outside your comfort zone. There are so many different types of BDSM accessories that can bring you total pleasure at the level of intensity you desire. If you love power dynamics with your sex, just adding a toy, ballgag, or handcuffs can take things to the next level.

Tabutoys offers 100% discreet shipping and packaging, so you can feel comfortable exploring every kinky possibility. We have the best BDSM toys, sexy accessories for couples, and other bedroom surprises that can set the scene for some of the hottest, most unforgettable moments of intimacy. Once you start incorporating BDSM into your sex life, every time is the best time ever.