Thanks to luxury intimate lifestyle brands like We-Vibe and Jimmyjane, they’ve even become something of a status symbol, (leading us to wonder what kind of gold-plated vibrator Beyonce carries in her Birkin bag.) According to a report from Chicago’s Berman Center, nearly half of adult women currently use adult toys or have tried them in the past.

So with this rampant sex toy revolution in full swing, you’d think every couple must really be getting their buzz on..right? Well, not exactly. While many women in relationships own toys, not all feel comfortable using them with or in front of their partners. Some might even feel guilty for using a one while in a relationship, based of the mistaken assumption that toys are only for “single, lonely people.”

And while many men are keen on the concept of their partners using toys, they may feel self-conscious when it comes to asking to join in. If you happen to be a couple that feels ashamed or awkward when it comes to using sex toys together, we kindly ask you to take a deep breath and get over it. Toys are made for sharing (didn’t we all learn that in grade school?)

Introducing a toy into your sexual routine is a great way for you to enhance your relationship, and not just on a physical level. Toy play with a partner demands a higher level of trust and intimacy and that can carry over into other areas of your life together as a couple. So now that we know the “Whys,” let’s explore the “Hows” with a list of common adult toys and how they can be used with your partner. Couples, Start your engines!!!

(Gay and Lesbian couples- this article is primarily directed towards our hetero friends, so clutch your pearls and play along. We’ll have more for you to enjoy later.)

Classic Vibrators – “Ol’ Faithful”

This basic, cylindrical style of vibrator is what most people think of when they hear the word “sex toy.” With their round tips and smooth shafts they can be inserted for vaginal stimulation or rubbed against the clit and labia. These vibes are a great opportunity for her to explore a little exhibitionism because most men LOVE watching a woman masturbate. Not only will it give him a great visual “how-to” on how she likes to climax, it can also be a huge turn-on for her.

Now here’s an important pubic service announcement: In the heat of the moment one of you might be tempted to slip one of these little bad boys into his or her backdoor – but just say no! Unless your vibrator is specifically designed for anal sex (with a wide safety base) it can easily disappear into the rectum and turn your sensual evening into a trip to the ER.

We’re sure you’ll laugh about it later but it won’t be a story you’ll want to tell when you gather ’round the grand kids.

Small Hand-Held Vibrators – “Girl’s Best Friend”

Classic external vibes like the Pocket Rocket have long been a popular way for women to get their kicks. If a Le Wand Massager is considered the “Ferrari” of sex toys, these mini vibrators would be more like the “bicycle with training wheels.” Small, cute, cordless and inconspicuous, these vibes can easily be slipped between a couple during sex to target her clit.

And, because of their discreet, portable nature, they can be slipped into her purse or his pocket for those last-minute quickies. He can apply a vibrator to her clit while licking her vaginal opening and perineum (otherwise known as the “taint), and she can apply the vibrator to his scrotum while she gives that good, good oral lovin’.

We should also point out that while most men find vibration pleasant they just don’t enjoy it in the same way that women do. That is, unless we’re talking prostate play (but more on that later.)

Larger Wand-Style Vibrators – “The Clit Whisperer”

All about the power, products like the Magic Wand and the Miracle Massager are a godsend for vibration-hungry clits and women who have difficulty reaching orgasm. They can also build a guy’s confidence in bed because wands are pretty fool-proof when it comes to partner play.

With their larger, rounded heads and deep, penetrating vibrations, there’s no worries about “finding the right spot.” After her 3rd toe-curling orgasm, that magic wand will make him feel like an all-powerful sex wizard. For her, these vibes work wonderfully during sex when held against the pubic bone in the cowgirl position.

Or, she can lay a wand on a couple of pillows and grind her hips against it when he’s penetrating her doggy-style. Can you say “simultaneous orgasm?”

Vibrating Cock Rings – “Half Man – Half Machine.”

Guys, have you ever looked at your girlfriend’s vibrator and thought “Why can’t my penis do that?” It can.

Great for both men and women, vibrating beads and probes can deliver completely different (and amazing) sensations that can be enjoyed as foreplay or the main course. Vibrating plugs can be inserted into the anus and then left in during sex or masturbation for added stimulation and more intense orgasms.

And, taking the time to explore his prostate (the male g-spot) can be a great way for her to focus on him. We’re all so “phallocentric” that we often forget that men have more than one pleasure zone! The prostate is one male hot spot that usually slips under the radar, but it’s a surefire way to provide him with a earth-shaking, full-body orgasm (not unlike a G-Spot orgasm for her.) Speaking of which..

G-Spot Vibrators – “Make it Rain”

The clit isn’t the only game in she-town. In the pantheon of female pleasure, the G-Spot is a little like the Holy Grail – mysterious but hugely rewarding. One of the best way to target this area is with a G-Spot vibrator. The combination of pressure from their curved tips and fast, rhythmic vibrations can trigger G-Spot orgasms and (if you’re lucky) female ejaculation..colloquially known as “squirting.”

For men, mastering the G can require time, sensitivity and a whole lot of patience. Want to know more? Check out our Guide To Female Ejaculation, grab a G-Spot vibrator, and proceed to impress the hell out of her with your new found carnal knowledge.