Keep Your Sex Toys Happy: They Give So Much, And Ask For So Little.

With Great Power Comes Great Responsibility

Your adult toys are obedient servants of pleasure—and all they ask in return is a little TLC. Treat them right, and they’ll keep you coming back for more. Here’s how to keep your toys fresh, clean, and ready for action..

Sex Toy Materials: Know Thine Toy

First things first: how you clean and care for your sex toy will depend on the type of material it’s made of. For the purpose of this guide, we’re going to talk mostly about insertable toys which go in or near your genitals, and for those kinds of toys, materials like glass, metal and silicone tend to be the easiest to keep clean.

Cyberskin, jelly and other soft, porous materials require more rigour and are less long-lasting. They’re also not suitable for sharing around, so if you’re not fluid-bonded with someone (a fancy way of saying ‘you don’t use condoms or similar kinds of protection when you are intimate with them) you shouldn’t use these sex toys on them either. It’s possible to cover porous sex toys with a condom if you like, but the jury’s out on whether this is effective – especially if the condom breaks. So to be on the safe side we recommend you only share clean toys made from non-porous materials.

Check out our sex toy materials guide if you need to work out what your toys are made from (hey, no one’s judging you for throwing out the box and instructions – we all get excited when there’s a new adult toy to play with!) and then follow the steps below on cleaning. Within five minutes you’ll be armed with all the info you need to keep your sex toys fresh and usable for as long as possible.

Which lube to use with your sex toys

There are three basic types of lubricant, as well as some hybrid lubes which combine the qualities of each of the three.

Water-based lube is your classic all-rounder: safe to use with condoms and sex toys, slippery and easy to wash off. Pjur Back Door (the clue’s in the name!) is a good example of a simple, water-based lube, but there are plenty of different types available.

Water-based lube is easy to clean off (whether from toys or skin), but it may need to be reapplied more frequently than silicone-based lube. Speaking of which…

Silicone lube tends to have a ‘silkier’ feel, and doesn’t need to be reapplied as frequently. If you’re having fun in the bath, shower, or swimming pool of a swingers’ resort, silicone lube like this Swiss Navy is a great choice as it doesn’t tend to wash away in water.

However, silicone lube can degrade silicone sex toys if you use the two together, so focus on water-based or Hybrid lube if you want to keep your silicone toys in mint condition. It’s absolutely fine to use on glass and metal, though, so feel free to slather on the silicone if you’re playing with a metal butt plug or similar delight.

Oil-based lube can degrade latex as well as silicone, so it’s a big no-no when you’re using condoms. However, many people enjoy the very slick feeling that oil-based lube can provide, especially for fisting and big insertions, as Elbow Grease demonstrates. So if you’re not using condoms or soft sex toys (we’re talking silicone, jelly, Cyberskin, rubber, plastic – anything that squishes when you squeeze it), oil-based might work for you. What’s more, as long as you keep it away from materials it degrades, oil-based lube is brilliant for massages: who doesn’t enjoy an erotic massage every now and again?

Hybrid lubes – as you can probably guess – combine different properties. Intimate Earth PLUSH Lube combines the best qualities of both silicone and water-based lubes. We’d recommend that you buy a couple of different lubricants for different purposes, but if your budget is limited, then a decent hybrid could do everything you need.

How to clean your sex toys

Assuming you’ve used the right lube, and you know what material your sex toys are made from, now it’s time to explore how to clean them.

There are many different sex toy cleaners on the market, and broadly, any sex toy cleaner should work on most toys. They’re usually antibacterial sprays or detergents that are thorough enough to kill germs, while being gentle enough to work on the sex toys you put in delicate places. If you don’t have a good cleaner – like this simple antibacterial toy cleaner – then a basic antibacterial soap and warm water should do the trick.

If your toy contains no batteries (for instance, a dildo, butt plug, or any sex toy that has no moving parts inside) then you should be able to completely submerge it in water. Likewise, some of the higher-tech vibrating toys often come with waterproof protection (for shower and bath use as well as ease of washing). If you’re cleaning one of these, it’s safe to submerge it in a bowl of warm water and wash thoroughly with antibacterial cleaner, making sure you get into all the nooks, crannies, and textures of the toy. If you’re struggling to clean a tricky ridge, using a toothbrush often helps. We probably don’t need to state this explicitly, but better safe than sorry: make sure it’s a different toothbrush from the one you use on your teeth.

With glass, metal, or pure silicone sex toys, you can also clean them using a mild bleach or by immersing them in boiling water (to kill germs). Although some people advise you can put toys like this in the dishwasher too, in practice, we don’t recommend it: your normal dishwasher detergent is not designed to be gentle on your genitals, and selecting the right machine cycle is a nightmare. The methods mentioned here are far easier!

If your sex toy isn’t fully waterproof, cleaning will be slightly trickier, though in practice, it’s just a matter of ensuring that no water accidentally gets into the charging port of the toy. You may want to hold parts of the toy under a running tap, or using a wet cloth carefully around the more delicate parts of it.

It’s worth having a special section on masturbation sheaths, because they’re notorious for being some of the trickiest sex toys to clean. Sex toys like male masturbators, which consist of a tight ‘sleeve’ of soft material, will need to be turned inside out before you wash them. Pull the internal sleeve out of any external holder (usually made of hard plastic) and then wash the sleeve, as above, in warm water with toy cleaner or antibacterial soap. When you’ve finished washing, it’s important to leave the toy inside-out to dry – that will prevent any dampness from lingering at the bottom of the sleeve when you put the toy away. Toy Renewal Powder can be used once the sleeve is dry if you want to restore it to its original texture.

Sex toy storage

Once you’ve cleaned your sex toys to a perfect shine, you’re ready to stash them back in your bedside table, or chest of drawers, or the pirate’s chest marked ‘KIDS: keep out!’ that you lock away in your garage. Storing your sex toys well is as important as cleaning them properly: the better you store them, the easier they’ll be to use next time and the longer they will last.

Make sure to unplug any rechargeable toys when they’re fully charged, and if your toy came with a special storage bag, pop the toy and charge in that so they’re easy to find and match when you next come to use them. Try to store porous materials like Cyberskin and jelly away from each other, because they will degrade more swiftly if you keep them next to each other.

And when it comes to lube, make sure to store it right way up rather than on its side once opened: you don’t want to reach into your bedside drawer for a condom only to find your fingertips wet from a puddle of lube that’s dripped out of a wayward spout.